Tips on Home Organization for Women Who Have Adult ADD/ADHD

Try these home organizing tips if you want to put disarray in its place.

ClutterDo you have piles of “stuff” so high you can’t find what you need, or sit down to a family dinner at the table because it’s covered with piles of papers – or gasp – dirty dishes? Even if clutter is beginning to take over your home, you can bust through the confusion and get your household running more smoothly!

Tip #1 – Tap into your values

The best allies you have in the war against clutter are your most deeply felt values. Find a way to connect your most cherished beliefs to clearing away the clutter!

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Adult ADD/ADHD and Procrastination

Procrastination is a challenge for adults with ADD/ADHD. Procrastination can easily lead to unpleasant consequences, including fines and penalties, lost opportunities, and even broken hearts.

ProcrastinationThese seven tips are proven to bust through procrastination so you can complete boring or unpleasant tasks and get your life under control.

First of all, it’s important to reframe procrastination for what it is – an ineffective way to avoid unpleasant or overwhelming tasks.

You can take an active stand! Use these effective strategies for pushing through the tendency to let procrastination determine your fate.

 “A year from now you may wish you had started today.”
― Karen Lamb

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ADHD Symptoms and Relationship Advice

Getting Connected and Staying Connected – Relationship Advice Tips

RelationshipsWhether dating or married, all couples must contend with stresses to their relationship. However, individuals with ADHD have a greater challenge.  Studies show couples with ADHD deal with more stressors in their relationship. And they also have a higher rate of divorce and separation. Knowing how to avoid the pitfalls and connect with genuine love will grow a strong relationship.

Why are ADHD symptoms a challenge in relationships?

Adults with ADHD have difficulty with concentration during conversations, follow-through, and organization. These can put a strain on a budding relationship.

Relationship advice for conversations – use strategies to stay focused and engaged

People with ADHD often have difficulty concentrating during conversations. Their partner can mistakenly see this as a sign of being disinterested. Difficulty focusing during conversations can end a relationship before it has a chance to get off the ground.

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Strategies to alter the environment to stop procrastinating with ADHD

Stop Procrastinating – ADHD-Friendly Strategies

ProcrastinationIt’s not easy to deal with your own sense of failure when you find yourself procrastinating and don’t follow through on something you intended to do.

Dealing with a lifetime of not meeting your own expectations is emotionally crushing. Over time, it limits the type of risks you take in your life. Putting off what needs to be done affects how successful you are in all areas of your life.

Sometimes we put off doing what we need to do or want to do because we expect it to be unpleasant. This can cause us to procrastinate. Often, the physical environment is one source of anticipated discomfort.

Stop procrastinating by making changes to your environment

There are many reasons we have difficulty with procrastination. In this post, I’m going to focus on ways to make the environment friendlier so you can get things done!

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How to Control Your Emotions – Managing ADHD Symptoms

One symptom of ADHD is difficulty regulating negative emotions.

EmotionsEmotions such as worry, fear or anger can easily get the best of us unless we have powerful tools to stay in control of our emotions.

When gripped by powerful negative emotions, chemical and neurological changes occur in the body. These changes are often referred to as the “fight, flight, fright, or freeze” syndrome.

When our body goes in this state, our logical, rational mind is bypassed and the primitive survival areas of the brain take charge. Under these conditions, it is difficult to think clearly and stay in control.

With logical thinking stalled or blocked, we lose access to our productive coping strategies. When this happens, we remain stuck in a cycle of emotionality and struggle. We react from instinct to protect ourselves. Reactivity encourages poor coping strategies such as blaming, quitting and denying responsibility.

In order to get back in charge, we need to break the cycle of “fight, flight, fright, or freeze”. We need to regain control of our logical decision-making skills so we can make good decisions that will help us met our goals.

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Identify Your Focusing Strengths

Do you have a goal you’d like to accomplish but weak “focusing” skills are standing in your way?

FocusingEven if you have difficulty with focus, you do have focusing strengths!  You can discover these strengths and use them to make big changes in your life.

Part one of this article describes the mental skills that make up “focusing.”  If you haven’t read part one, you can read it here.

“Focusing” is actually a combination of five related skills: attention, concentration, persistence, comprehension and memory.

You have a big goal for your life and you want to focus and make it happen! Maybe you want to start a business, go back to school or get control of your clutter. Unfortunately, challenges with “focusing” are getting in the way of accomplishing this goal.

First, you need to identify, specifically, what must be true about your focusing skills in order for you to accomplish the goal.  For example, do you need to improve your concentration and persistence?  Or maybe you need to improve your comprehension or memory skills. Write down which of the five focusing skills you will need to work on in order for your goal to become your reality.

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